I know I’ve address this concept before, but it keeps coming up:
“You can’t have a same-sex marriage. That’s against my religion.”
“I can’t eat pork. It’s against my religion.”
“Nope, can’t drink/dance/smoke … that’s against my religion.”
NO! Same sex married is NOT against your religion. Neither is eating pork or having a drink or dancing.
To be “against” something is to take a stand and directly oppose it. When you say “the rain is beating against the window”, the window is doing nothing but being a window; the rain is taking action against the window. When people picket the legislature or some other thing, it is those in opposition, the picketers, who are working against the legislature or whatever.
When your local church is “against” dancing, THEY are the ones taking steps to stop the dancing. The dancers are just dancing. It might be to spite the church, but not in opposition to the church. That is, dancers aren’t coming in disrupting the church service the way church goers go out and try to disrupt the dancing.
So when you say that same-sex marriage is against your religion, you are lying. You are not being honest about who is acting in opposition to whom. Same-sex marriage isn’t about your religion, and it doesn’t seek to change your religion. Your religion might be against same-sex marriage, but same-sex couples aren’t necessarily against your religion. Most likely they don’t give a damn about your religion.
Granted, there are individuals (like me) who are actively against your religion, because your religion is stupid. But same-sex marriage, being part of the institution of marriage, is not against your religion, and you need to stop pretending it is. You are not the victim here, simply because other people wish to live their lives on terms that are different from what you or your religion would prefer. Your preference has no bearing at all, and neither do the dictates of your religion. Nobody is getting married as an act of opposition to you or your religion.
Stop saying “it’s against my religion”. Be honest and admit the truth by saying “my religion is against that.” You are the problem in society, not the people minding their own business and doing their own thing.