Back to Onan
Okay, this is a follow-up to the comments posted a few days ago, which linked to a list of the number of people God killed, according to the Bible. Steve said each one was justified. Obviously, I disagreed. Like this story of Onan; Steve said he was killed for “disobedience.” I call bullshit. So let’s look at it.
Genesis 38.1-10
1 And it came about at that time, that Judah departed from his brothers and visited a certain Adullamite, whose name was Hirah.
2 Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua; and he took her and went in to her.
3 So she conceived and bore a son and he named him Er.
4 Then she conceived again and bore a son and named him Onan.
5 She bore still another son and named him Shelah; and it was at Chezib that she bore him.
6 Now Judah took a wife for Er his firstborn, and her name was Tamar.
7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was evil in the sight of the LORD, so the LORD took his life.
8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife, and perform your duty as a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.”
9 Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother’s wife, he wasted his seed on the ground in order not to give offspring to his brother.
10 But what he did was displeasing in the sight of the LORD; so He took his life also.
11 Then Judah said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Remain a widow in your father’s house until my son Shelah grows up”; for he thought, “I am afraid that he too may die like his brothers.” So Tamar went and lived in her father’s house.
12 Now after a considerable time Shua’s daughter, the wife of Judah, died; and when the time of mourning was ended, Judah went up to his sheepshearers at Timnah, he and his friend Hirah the Adullamite.
13 It was told to Tamar, “Behold, your father-in-law is going up to Timnah to shear his sheep.”
14 So she removed her widow’s garments and covered herself with a veil, and wrapped herself, and sat in the gateway of Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah; for she saw that Shelah had grown up, and she had not been given to him as a wife.
15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a harlot, for she had covered her face.
16 So he turned aside to her by the road, and said, “Here now, let me come in to you”; for he did not know that she was his daughter-in-law. And she said, “What will you give me, that you may come in to me?”
17 He said, therefore, “I will send you a young goat from the flock.” She said, moreover, “Will you give a pledge until you send it?”
18 He said, “What pledge shall I give you?” And she said, “Your seal and your cord, and your staff that is in your hand.” So he gave them to her and went in to her, and she conceived by him.
19 Then she arose and departed, and removed her veil and put on her widow’s garments.
20 When Judah sent the young goat by his friend the Adullamite, to receive the pledge from the woman’s hand, he did not find her.
21 He asked the men of her place, saying, “Where is the temple prostitute who was by the road at Enaim?” But they said, “There has been no temple prostitute here.”
22 So he returned to Judah, and said, “I did not find her; and furthermore, the men of the place said, ‘There has been no temple prostitute here.’”
23 Then Judah said, “Let her keep them, otherwise we will become a laughingstock. After all, I sent this young goat, but you did not find her.”
24 Now it was about three months later that Judah was informed, “Your daughter-in-law Tamar has played the harlot, and behold, she is also with child by harlotry.” Then Judah said, “Bring her out and let her be burned!”
25 It was while she was being brought out that she sent to her father-in-law, saying, “I am with child by the man to whom these things belong.” And she said, “Please examine and see, whose signet ring and cords and staff are these?”
26 Judah recognized them, and said, “She is more righteous than I, inasmuch as I did not give her to my son Shelah.” And he did not have relations with her again.
27 It came about at the time she was giving birth, that behold, there were twins in her womb.
28 Moreover, it took place while she was giving birth, one put out a hand, and the midwife took and tied a scarlet thread on his hand, saying, “This one came out first.”
29 But it came about as he drew back his hand, that behold, his brother came out. Then she said, “What a breach you have made for yourself!” So he was named Perez.
30 Afterward his brother came out who had the scarlet thread on his hand; and he was named Zerah.
So Judah went and took the daughter of a Canaanite named Shua (how tacky, the daughter isn’t considered worthy enough to be named, she’s just the daughter of some Canaanite dude and becomes the mother of Judah’s kids), and had two boys, Er and Onan, and then later also had Shelah.
Judah picked Tamar to be his first-born son’s wife.
Now, first off, “Er … was evil in the sight of the LORD, so the LORD took his life.” WTF? This is pure conjecture and superstition. There is NO information provided to indicate how or why Er was considered evil in the sigh of the LORD, so there’s nothing useful to learn there, other than “you better watch out, because God might strike you dead without warning, without reason, without recourse, but that’s how God is.” Remember, these were nomadic and unsophisticated people, very superstitious. They didn’t know why some people die young, apparently without illness. If someone fell over from a heart attack, they would just shrug their shoulders and assume he’d done something to piss God off and so God struck him dead.
But anyway, apparently this wasn’t long after his father made him marry Tamar, and they hadn’t had a son yet (no mention if they’d had daughters), so Judah decided it was up to Onan to go in and have sex with his now-widowed sister-in-law to make her pregnant, thus giving a child to the widow of the first born (Er). Presumably this would ensure inheritance rights or some such thing, for the first-born of the first-born.
Side note: notice that women back then were just chattel (property). It isn’t indicated whether Tamar wanted to marry Er in the first place, OR whether she liked the idea of sleeping with her brother-in-law. Misogyny runs rampant through the Old Testament, so it’s okay to dismiss the O.T. as a guide for modern relationships. And, just so you know, I looked it up. This is a genuine Old Testament law (Deuteronomy 25.5-10).
5 “When brothers live together and one of them dies and has no son, the wife of the deceased shall not be married outside the family to a strange man. Her husband’s brother shall go in to her and take her to himself as wife and perform the duty of a husband’s brother to her.
6 “It shall be that the firstborn whom she bears shall assume the name of his dead brother, so that his name will not be blotted out from Israel.
7 “But if the man does not desire to take his brother’s wife, then his brother’s wife shall go up to the gate to the elders and say, ‘My husband’s brother refuses to establish a name for his brother in Israel; he is not willing to perform the duty of a husband’s brother to me.’
8 “Then the elders of his city shall summon him and speak to him. And if he persists and says, ‘I do not desire to take her,’
9 then his brother’s wife shall come to him in the sight of the elders, and pull his sandal off his foot and spit in his face; and she shall declare, ‘Thus it is done to the man who does not build up his brother’s house.’
10 “In Israel his name shall be called, ‘The house of him whose sandal is removed.’
Well, that’s seriously fucked up all on it’s own, huh? So much for all that “Biblical sanctity of marriage” bullshit. It just ain’t so! But the rule back then was that if you and your brother lived together, and the brother dies before having a son, the other brother is supposed to get the widow pregnant and the child would be consider the son of the dead guy. WOW!
Well, Onan apparently didn’t like the idea, but went in to do the deed, but then pulled out before ejaculating so that his semen “spilled to the ground”. Now, this could have been that he didn’t care for Tamar. Or maybe he wasn’t all that fond of his brother. Or maybe he didn’t like the idea that a child of his own production would be credited to his dead brother’s lineage for inheritance rights. I mean, just because it was considered the custom or law at the time doesn’t mean you have to like the idea. (see Mills’ quote in the right-hand column!!) But who knows exactly what he was thinking? NOBODY knows, that’s who. It just says he didn’t want to give offspring to his brother, but for what reason?
All that is said is that what Onan did was “displeasing” to the LORD, and so the LORD took his life. Again… where’s the justification? What *exactly* was displeasing? Was it the simple lone fact that he pulled out before he shot his load? Was it because of what he was thinking (which is NOT made clear)?
Did he fall dead from a heart attack right then and there? Did Tamar report his actions to Judah, who then took matters into his own hands and slayed Onan? (look at all the other killings in the Bible — PEOPLE did it and then blamed God; who’s to say that’s not what happened here?) How many times was Onan sent in to Tamar? Was it a one-time shot (pardon the pun) or after a year of trying someone figured out he was shooting short and not doing what he was told? Or maybe Tamar seemed unable to bear children but they blamed it on Onan? (she wasn’t barren — Judah got her pregnant later on, but they didn’t have fertility clinics back then, so they made up stuff.) These things need to be made clear in order to understand why God supposedly killed him. (no, no, I know… we’re talking about fictional characters all the way around, but in order to take the story even remotely seriously, or expect to find any valid “lesson”, we need a whole lot more information.)
The problem with all of this killing is that there is nothing there for a rational person to grasp. There must be a rational reason why the God of the Old Testament is credited with being such a killing fool. There’s no indication of HOW Onan died, just another superstitious report that “God didn’t like it, so God killed him,” same as with his brother. Maybe they both had congenital heart problems and simply died having sex, or immediately thereafter from the stress of having sex? It isn’t stated, and so we cannot learn anything from this story. It has no value, other than to paint God as a wicked fickle monster.
Steve claims God killed Onan for “disobedience”. That’s not good enough for the 21st Century. We aren’t a superstitious nomadic people making up fantasies about the deities any more. We are a civilized, and mostly rational, society and we expect clear explanations for what happens and why.
In the story, we are given a cop-out message about Er and Onan making God angry, and God kills them. But then immediately after that, we see that Judah makes and breaks a promise to Tamar that she could marry Shelah. Surprise, surprise, he didn’t keep his promise, so Tamar gets dressed like a prostitute and tricks Judah into sleeping with her. He willingly sleeps with her because he thinks this woman is a prostitute. (Uhhh… hello??? Does he not recognize his own daughter-in-law’s VOICE???) He pledges to pay her with a goat, and gives her his ring, his rod and cord as a pledge. But when the time comes to deliver the goat, the “prostitute” cannot be found, and so his rod and cord cannot be retrieved. He says, ‘Well, fuck it, let her keep them, and I’ll keep the goat.”
A while later, it is reported that his daughter-in-law has acted like a harlot and become pregnant, and Judah determines that she should be burned to death. (Wow, that’s a bit harsh, huh?) She shows up and declares that she was made pregnant by the owner of the signet ring, the staff, and the cord that she presents. Well, whattaya know…. those things belong to Judah! My, my — what a fix he’s in!
She delivers twins this time, and that’s the end of the story. The next time we hear about Judah (Numbers 26.19-22), this whole mess is glossed over.
19 The sons of Judah were Er and Onan, but Er and Onan died in the land of Canaan.
20 The sons of Judah according to their families were: of Shelah, the family of the Shelanites; of Perez, the family of the Perezites; of Zerah, the family of the Zerahites.
21 The sons of Perez were: of Hezron, the family of the Hezronites; of Hamul, the family of the Hamulites.
22 These are the families of Judah according to those who were numbered of them, 76,500.
Gosh, if it were really such a big deal that Er and Onan pissed off God so much, if there were really some important lesson involved, don’t you supposed it would get more mention than just “Er and Onan died inthe land fo Canaan.”
Okay, so let’s take a tally…
Er pissed God off for some unnamed offense(s). God takes his life.
Onan doesn’t want to give Tamar a child to raise as Er’s. That pisses God off. God takes his life.
Judah, on the other hand, has some kids from a woman who isn’t even named! Disgusting.
So Judah promises Tamar she can marry Shelah when he grows up, but then he breaks that promise.
Then, never mind the woman who bore his children (his wife???), Judah figures it’s okay to sleep with a prostitute as well (hey, he’s a guy… he has needs, y’know?), and ends up fathering his own grandchildren!
He wants to have his daughter-in-law burned to death for getting pregnant, until he realizes she is the “prostitute” he slept with. Oh but look how generous he is: “And he did not have relations with her again.” Makes it sound like he visited this “prostitute” more than once, huh?
Judah is a liar, a cheat, a misogynist, and a wicked person willing to burn his daughter-in-law. Yet he gets off scot-free and his progeny eventually numbers 76,500. So whatever Er and Onan did, it must have been WAAY worse, if God just instantly zapped them, huh? But again, WHAT did they do that was sooooo horrible, compared to what their father did?
To believe the story literally, as if it actually happened, is to accept that God is a reckless monster without any sense of justice whatsoever.
Rationally, Er and Onan died through natural causes. That’s the only way natural people die — illness, accident, whatever. Attributing it to God is pure superstition, because there is nothing in the story to support that it was actually God, other than “well, that’s what it says, so it must be true.” No, it isn’t true. It didn’t happen, and anyone who thinks it DID happen that way, and believes there is a God, and that God really does just kill off people for supposed disobedience, are just messed up in the head.
And there are thousands more that God supposed killed (or ordered to be killed), and it will be awfully difficult for anyone to go through that list and come up with rational justifications for any of it. But I will wait to see the rationale for each and every one of them. Until then, I’ll stick with what Richard Dawkins has said:
The God of the Old Testament is arguably the most unpleasant character in all fiction: jealous and proud of it; a petty, unjust, unforgiving control-freak; a vindictive, bloodthirsty ethnic cleanser; a misogynistic, homophobic, racist, infanticidal, genocidal, filicidal, pestilential, megalomaniacal, sadomasochistic, capriciously malevolent bully.
Fortunately, the God of the Old Testament is a piece of fiction. Further, if any real person commited even a fraction of the heinous acts attributed to God (or any of the “heroes” of the Bible), he or she would be immediately tried and found guilty on multiple counts deserving the death penalty.




